Healing from heartbreak is painful. Extremely painful in fact. The longer you were with your significant other, the harder it feels to heal from the loss. You may never feel ready to grieve, but it is a requirement in order for you to move forward. Grieving is a normal part of being human as much as creating something anew.

It’s common for partners to move from periods of being drawn to sex to periods of feeling less excited, and sometimes avoidant, towards sex given how many different life circumstances and life transitions you face. Oftentimes, this difficulty in rekindling the spark for your spouse can be addressed effectively in therapy.

You have been hurt by the presence of infidelity in your relationship. This breach of trust could have happened a long time ago. It could have happened last year or you could have just discovered it this week. What matters most is that it hurts like hell and that you feel like things are falling apart, you are falling apart.

When a relationship is in trouble, couples face a few choices: a. Keep going and live with the relationship as is or b. End the relationship. What you may not know is that there is a third option. You do not have to keep going and live with the relationship as is while resentment and disappointment pile up.

“Conflict is bad for marriage. If we fight a lot, that means we’re not compatible.” This very narrative has set many couples up for marriage dissatisfaction from the get go. Conflict is neither good nor bad. And in many instances, conflict can be a good thing. Why?

With the traditional in person therapy setting, you are expected to be more formal. By that I mean you may dress up more, leave whatever you’re doing to make time for driving, meet with your therapist to talk about your relationship concerns in a designated amount of time, and then depart till another week or so.

There is no shame for you or for any of us to admit that you struggle in your marriage. There is no such thing as a problem-proof relationship. If you expect your relationship to be smooth sailing, you may fall hard when it isn’t. What you see as a “problem” in your marriage is also a door for new opportunities

Building a relationship takes hard work. Structuring an interracial marriage adds its own twists and flavors to the existing challenge. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by the demand of picking and choosing which cultural values that you and your spouse must compromise over for the life of your marriage, you are not alone.

Stress is your #1 enemy, not your in-laws. It can cause you and your in-laws to feel like you’re working against each other. A “perfect” wedding often comes with a great amount of stress and most of us, including me, do not realize how much anxiety we accumulate during the wedding preparation.

One common idea that can come up when discussing polyamory is “I didn’t sign up for this when I married you.” This may sound argumentative but being able to speak the truth may help start the healing process. You see, our guts feelings often tell us that we are not built or ready to commit to a certain thing.

We are afraid of being seen as the “bad guy” in our partner’s eyes. We are afraid that they may stop loving us because we say “no” to things that we are not comfortable doing. There are many reasons why people feel hesitant or neglect boundary setting with their significant other.

Blaming comes from a place of disconnection. When we’re in pain, we expect our partner to somehow know it and do something to take the pain away. When they fail to respond to us the way that we expect, we tend to lash out at them for our feelings of hopelessness.

Just like any form of insurance you have purchased in your life, there is no absolute guarantee that you and your belongings will be 100% covered with insurance. Though, the chance of you being protected and cared for against the odds is high. Likewise, love insurance does not provide a conflict-free and eternally-happy condition for your marriage.

Understanding your fear, the one that stops you from practicing vulnerability, is critical. For some, it is the fear of the unknown or uncertainty that stops us from telling others how we feel. We are afraid because we don’t know how our loved one would react if we showed them who we are.